|Program of recovery||The Twelve Steps||The Twelve Traditions|
|The basics||Sponsorship||Useful slogans|
In getting off the games, we find we all run into many of the same problems. It’s like coming upon a mine field. It’s so easy to get blown back into gaming. A sponsor is someone who we see on the other side of the mine field, someone willing to point out, “Hey, I stepped there and there and there and did this and avoided that.” A sponsor shares his or her experience in navigating the difficult path from active gaming addiction to recovery. A sponsor listens to you, tries to understand you, shares any relevant experience that might help guide you, and makes some suggestions.
Finding one can take a while, so it’s important to have good support in the meanwhile. We suggest attending meetings, making connections, talking before and after the meeting, getting phone numbers and email addresses, and using those numbers and emails. While looking for a sponsor, you could ask someone to be a temporary sponsor.
Seek people who you find trustworthy and who are living the kind of life you want. Choose someone who has successfully stayed off games for at least six months. Be careful to avoid conflicts of interest, such as with family members or co-workers, and most especially where romantic entanglements could possibly develop.
When you’ve found someone, ask that person to talk. Let them know you want a sponsor. The voice of addiction fights tooth-and-nail against this step, but don’t let it stop you. Like the rest of us, you deserve support and guidance in recovery.
Start out by each stating your expectations of sponsorship and seeing if you have a good match. There are often differences that can become very troublesome if left unspoken. If one sponsorship is problematic, seek another one. You might need to talk with several people before finding a good working sponsorship.
Q. Who can be a sponsor?
A. Because our fellowship doesn’t have rules, sponsorship is completely up to the two people involved. But we do make some suggestions to help you navigate the process.
Q. What are the suggested guidelines for sponsorship?
A. The sponsor has more time in recovery than the sponsee and helps by sharing personal experience and making some suggestions. Also, a sponsor has usually worked or is working the 12 Steps of CGAA.
Our fellowship strongly suggests that you get a sponsor who also has a sponsor. Sponsorship is the main way that the program is passed on from one person to another.
Q. What’s a temporary sponsor?
A. Sometimes, it can take a while to find a good match for a sponsor. We have some newer members who are willing to be a temporary sponsor while you continue seeking. We recommend that a temporary sponsor has a sponsor who believes he or she is ready, has attended many meetings, has stayed off games for at least two months, and has made progress in the first few steps. He or she should also encourage you in continuing to seek a more experienced member as a sponsor.
Q. What’s a recovery buddy?
A. A recovery buddy can be anyone else who is recovering from gaming addiction and who is willing to let you contact him or her individually to talk about what’s going on in life and recovery.
Q. When am I ready to be a sponsor?
A. None of us are able to see ourselves and our recovery as clearly as the recovering addicts around us, so we recommend that you get your sponsor’s input on this. If your sponsor is suggesting that you consider being a sponsor, you’re probably ready, and will likely find that taking somebody on as a sponsee (even if only on a temporary basis) will help your recovery. If your sponsor is cautioning you against becoming a sponsor, it’s probably best to wait.